Internal injuries

Internal injuries- " Acts of harassment denied and hidden , and children have no basic protection " • What happens to boarding schools at risk ? • Research  , Naama Lnskymichl Jacob Isaac , .Israel Hayom , Posted on: 04/04/2014 00:40 Updated on : 06/04/2014

Lily's stomach began to hurt most concern when boarding manager called her into his office to reach a panic , where he even offered her coffee , cakes and cold water. As out of his way to please and soothe her , the more she felt that something bad happened to one of her children living in a boarding school . She was sure it was the large boy that is playful and always making trouble.

But then the director of campus held his head , said that thirty years is not such a thing happened to him , and murmured a few verses from the Torah . This is Lily's daughter , age seven . She was sexually adused by some boys . It happened six days ago,the manager has no real info and is not allowed to ask wat happend the Police are investigating.

" I asked , what does it mean sexually abused , what exactly happened , how it happened and why no one stopped it and what do I do now ? Leave her with her ​​attackers ? " Lily tells exactly what happened a month ago , " and he told me he was not sure , my daughter was on the way to testify . Demanded to let me see her right away, and they took me to her .

"The first thing the girl said to me is' Mom, I'm not guilty .i Hugged her and told her : " Obviously you're not guilty. youare my soul . Go tell all that happened. my hero , and mothers watching over you . its's Not your fault, sweet heart . " .

The Trauma of Israel’s Notorious “Contact Centers”

Outside Israel very little is known about the horrendous policies of Israel’s Welfare Authorities when it comes to fathers in divorce seeking contact or visitations with their children, or when women whose children are forcefully kidnapped into outplacement facilities and foster homes.  The fathers and mothers end up seeing their children in supervised visitation facilities, known as Contact Centers, “Merkaz Kesher”.  These are secured and heavily guarded facilities where the parent gets one hour a week, and sometimes even less to be with the children in a tiny room, watched by a social worker, and under strict compliance rules such as no photos, no gifts and no spontaneous dialogue. 

In case of men in divorce, the chances of a man ending up in a Contact Center are almost one in four, i.e. almost 25% of fathers are sent there, as opposed to 1%-2% in USA and 3% in Australia.  In Israel a man can be sent to a supervised contact center simply upon the wish of the woman, “lack of trust”, upsetting the social worker, or as a tool to coerce higher child support.

Overseas Supervised visitations normally serve violent, alcoholic or homeless men.  In Israel, because women are immune from prosecution for false domestic violence, false complaints are the norm, the standard, de rigueur.   Almost every contested divorce in Israel starts with a false complaint by a woman, an immediate 15 day order of removal from the marital home, and a “recommendation” (which is actually a determination) by a social worker to the Judge, to allow child contact only under supervision of social workers.

The article below sheds light into one of Israel’s most atrocious aspects of gender apartheid against men.  However, some women also see their children in Contact Centers.  That happens because when poor women ask for help from the Welfare Authorities, the woman are branded as “neglectful” and the children are taken away, into shelters for which the government pays $4,850 a month.  The Welfare policies are unwilling to invest a single shekel into the mother’s economic well being, so that she will be able to provide better for the purportedly “neglected” children.

This is a translation of an article published in Hebrew at Israel Hayom by Naama Lanski and Michal Yaakov Itzhaki on February 2, 2014.